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Managing incontinence at school: a guide for parents and teachers

Tips on how to manage your child's incontinence while at school.

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Managing incontinence at school can be challenging and potentially embarrassing for children, but with the right support from parents, caregivers and teachers, it can be much more manageable. In this article, we aim to provide practical strategies and recommendations to help create a comfortable and supportive environment for children with incontinence at school.

Open communication and collaboration

Effective management of a child’s incontinence at school begins with open communication and collaboration among parents, teachers and healthcare professionals. This collaborative approach ensures that everyone involved is informed and equipped to support the child effectively.

Steps for parents 

Initial communication

Arrange a meeting with the school headteacher, teachers and/or school nurse to discuss your child's condition. Provide detailed information about the severity of the incontinence, triggers and any management strategies that have proven effective at home.


Provide the school with any relevant medical documentation from your child's healthcare provider. This might include a letter from the doctor explaining the condition, any medications being taken and specific recommendations for managing incontinence at school.

Action plan

Work with the school to develop an action plan tailored to your child's needs. This plan should outline the steps to be taken in case of an accident, designated bathroom times and the location of supplies such as extra clothes and wipes.

Regular updates

Maintain ongoing communication with the school. Regularly update teachers and staff about any changes in your child's condition or management plan. This ensures that the school can adapt and continue to provide appropriate support.

Steps for teachers and school staff

Training and awareness

Ensure that all relevant staff members are trained and aware of the child's condition. This includes understanding the nature of incontinence, recognising the signs of distress in the child and knowing the steps to take in case of an accident.

Creating a supportive environment

Build an environment of empathy and support within the classroom. Address any teasing or bullying immediately and educate students about the importance of kindness and understanding.


Respect the child’s privacy. Share information about the child's condition only with those directly involved in their care. Maintain confidentiality to protect the child from embarrassment and stigma.

Accessible facilities

Ensure that the child has easy access to bathroom facilities. While a private bathroom space is likely not an option, if possible, ensure that the nearest bathroom is always available and well-stocked with necessary supplies.

Collaboration with healthcare professionals

Professional guidance

Consult with healthcare professionals to understand the best practices for managing incontinence in a school setting. This might include advice on diet, hydration and medication schedules. We offer a 15-minute free discovery call – book yours now

Regular check-ins

Schedule regular check-ins with healthcare professionals to monitor the child’s progress and adjust the management plan as needed. This helps with keeping the school informed about any new developments or changes in the child’s condition.

Building a support network

Peer support

If the child is comfortable, consider establishing a peer support system. This might involve identifying a trusted friend who can offer discreet support and companionship.

Parent support groups

Join or form a support group for parents of children with incontinence. Sharing experiences and advice can provide valuable emotional support and practical tips.

Teacher collaboration

Encourage teachers to collaborate and share strategies that have been successful in supporting the child. Regular meetings and open communication among staff can enhance the overall support system for the child.

By being open, parents, teachers and healthcare professionals can create a supportive and understanding environment that helps children with incontinence thrive at school.

Establishing a supportive environment

Creating a supportive environment is crucial for children with incontinence. Here are four key tips:


Always respect the child's privacy by keeping their condition confidential. Share relevant information only with those directly involved in their care. Peers should not be informed unless the child is comfortable with it and it is relevant to their day-to-day happiness. 


Encourage a sensitive and understanding attitude among teachers and, if appropriate, classmates. Teachers can discuss incontinence in a positive and supportive manner, promoting empathy and discouraging teasing or stigmatisation.

Products and resources

Ensure the child has the necessary supplies, such as extra clothes, disposable pads, wipes and plastic bags for soiled items. Consider establishing a 'station' or a safe place in the classroom to store these items.


Ensure the child has easy access to toilets and bathroom facilities from their classroom. The school should maintain clean, well-stocked restrooms that are easily accessible.

Creating routines and strategies

Routines can significantly reduce stress and anxiety for children managing incontinence at school. Here are some suggestions:

Timed voiding

Encourage regular bathroom breaks to minimise accidents. Develop a schedule that aligns with the child's needs and ensure they can access a bathroom during these times.

Bathroom buddy

Assign a trusted peer or teacher to accompany the child to the bathroom if they feel uncomfortable going alone. This can provide a sense of security and support.

Hydration and diet

Encourage the child to drink sufficient water daily and educate them on how certain foods and drinks can affect their bladder or bowel movements. Collaborate with teachers and healthcare professionals to create a balanced diet plan.

Educating teachers and peers

Educating teachers and peers about incontinence can foster a more inclusive and understanding school environment. Here are ways to approach this:

Classroom discussions

Promote open discussions about incontinence to raise awareness, address misconceptions and promote empathy among classmates. These discussions can be led by the teacher or a healthcare professional. Encourage students to ask questions to ensure they receive accurate information. PeePS is happy to come into the classroom to lead these discussions, get in touch, call 07714 024779. 

Staff training

Schools can organise training sessions for teachers and staff, equipping them with knowledge about incontinence management. This training should cover signs, symptoms, appropriate responses and strategies to support the child effectively.

Supportive policies

Parents and caregivers can work with school administration to develop inclusive policies that support students with incontinence. These policies should outline procedures for managing accidents, access to resources, and guidelines for peer support.

Managing incontinence at school requires a collaborative effort between parents, caregivers, teachers, and healthcare professionals. By building a supportive environment, establishing routines and educating peers and teachers, we can help children with incontinence feel comfortable and empowered at school.

If your child struggles with incontinence and needs support and a solution, get in touch with us for a free 15-minute discovery call today. 

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